Playing dominó under the streetlights on a Friday night |
That has always been a comforting thought to me when I have been living for a long time far away from “home.”
Home may be where the heart is or where one’s treasure lies, but what about when the heart and home and treasure are still distant from one another? Does that mean that I am in the wrong place at the wrong time? I think it means just that: that my heart and my treasure and my home are separated from one another right now, but I know that I am in the right place at exactly the right time.
At the Centro Nautico boarding school |
A Matanzas bay fisherman |
I’ve only just recently learned the Cuban art of stockpiling. Since you never know when you’ll see any particular item in the stores again, everyone stockpiles on everything, to the extent that they can afford to buy more than one of anything. Toilet paper, powdered milk, canned soda and beer, and even brown sugar are a few examples of items that disappear for weeks on end from the shelves of all the stores, and nobody knows how long it will be before they reappear. Cubans have to substitute newspaper for toilet paper not only because toilet paper can only be bought with CUCs, but because it sometimes cannot be bought at all.
Another reason for my relative silence is that I’ve reached the point where I am beginning to understand too much. By that I mean that I have reached that plateau of linguistic and cultural comprehension that can spell danger for someone as generally naïve and talkative and tactless as I. Maybe it’s a bit of paranoia mixed with a good measure of confusion, as I add nearly daily, sometimes hourly, to the extensive list in my mind of ambiguities and contradictions that make up the Cuban culture.
Los Cocodrilos along Matanzas' waterfront park |
All along, since my very first day in Cuba, I have been finding out the same thing about myself, and yet it continues to surprise me over and over again. And it is this: I am who I am because I was born in Cuba of Cuban parents and Cuban blood but, from the start, I was raised in two very different and often opposing cultures. Thus, I am by nature, by upbringing and by environment, a person full of ambivalence, ambiguity, contradiction, and multiplicity. And the never-ending surprise is learning that there’s nothing wrong or the matter with any of that.
Bridge over Rio San Juan |
So, in short, I feel very much “at home” living in my “home country.” And yet…just thinking about returning to “my other life” in Philadelphia makes me realize that there remains a long road ahead before I begin to feel truly and fully integrated into either culture. I suppose that teachers are the last to learn how much they still need to learn, that life is an ongoing learning experience, but that cliché only partly expresses what I am feeling. I feel scared.
At Matanzas' El Hotel Velazco with a Canadian student |
With love from Cuba,
Matanzas, March 5, 2012
Elisa
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